7 Habits of Highly Successful

Habit 5

5. Seek First Understand, and then to be Understood.

Because most people don’t very well, one of the great frustration in life is that many don’t feel understood. This habit skill there is active listening.

Why is this habit the key to communication? It’s because the deepest need of the human heart is to be understood. Everyone wants to be respected and valued for who they are-a unique, one-of-a-kind, never-to-be-cloned individual. People won’t expose their soft middles unless they feel genuine love and understanding. Once they feel it however, they may tell you more than you might want to hear. People won’t care how much they know until they know how much you care.

Listen with your eyes, heart, and ears. 7 percent of communication is contained in the words we use. The rest comes from body language (53 percent) and how we say words, or the tone and feeling reflected in our voice (40 percent).

Most people are eager to talk and had rather talk than listen. We have one month and two cars. This means we should listen twice as much as we talk. We actually learn more while listening rather than we talk. Learn to listen and listen to learn. Listen, really listen, for understanding, seek first to understand then to be understood-LISTEN.

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